Nerd vs Jock Part 1

Another night and I was online with Recon. I was looking through profiles and came across one that really got my attention. He was only two years younger than me, excellent muscled body, black, submissive, a self described jock, and into chastity. He was exactly what I was looking for but his profile stated that he was into fit guys. I am most definitely not fit. Working on it... but at the moment I'm a heavy bear/chub. I cruised him and very quickly got a cruise back. Surprised, I reached out and messaged him. That was all it took. He was hooked.

We chatted for five days and found we both were really compatible in terms of interest. I went ahead and told him he should come over on a Thursday night. This was the first time in awhile that I'd had someone that I had such synchronicity with. My favorite thing to do with subs, especially jocks, is to get into their psychology and find out what makes up their sub space. It's usually pretty easy with jocks as they've always gotten by on their bodies and less so on their mind. Although I will say, DC has a lot of smart talented people so, many times, this stereotyping has failed me. Not this time though. His thoughts are very surface level and easy to pick up on. He's into me and it's time to make my move. I told him to come over on Thursday.

No matter how into me a boy seems I never believe men are going to show up until they are in my bed naked. So while I'd thought out what I'd do if he came over, I was fully prepared to entertain myself for the evening. Or look for other ass to fuck, beat, or tie up. I got a text indicating that he was a block away. I took a moment and grabbed my toys I thought I might use and brought laid them out quickly. I raced to the bathroom and used some mouthwash quickly.

I opened the front door and politely waved him in. He just made it past the door when I suddenly threw my weight at him and pressed him against the wall with my forearm at his throat.

"Hey faggot. I am glad you came. You ready to serve me fag?" I grinned and looked him right in the eyes intensely. He nodded slowly. He looked a little nervous. Can't let that nervousness settle in his mind. With the forearm at his throat I gripped his shoulder and turned him and pushed him down the short entry way to my apartment. I steered him to my room and closed and locked the door. Once there I gave him a moment to look around.

 "Faggot, we have discussed safety prior to this but I am going to go over it again. You will save all questions till the end." I gripped his jaw with my hand and looked him dead in the eye. "Your safe word is 'Yellow' if you say that safe word the action will stop and I will check in on you. Any bindings you may be in will be undone. There is no shame involved in using the safe word, nor is there any 'control over the scene'. By playing with a safe word I know that if you are not using it I am free to play as I deem appropriate for this scene. Furthermore, if your mouth is full of my COCK or something less tasty, I will reach over and slip my hands into yours. If you squeeze it as hard as you can I will stop the scene. If you squeeze my hand twice and lightly I’ll continue on. Do you understand these instructions?" He nods his head. "Do you have anything to add you think I should know?" Another nod.

"Strip faggot!" I barked. He quickly started to undress. "Slowly..." I said. He hesitated and then took his clothes off a bit more seductively. His skin was silky smooth and dark. He absolutely lived up to his pictures. His body was muscled and lean. I felt warmth spreading through my mind. A velvet haze I've come to recognize as a heady mix of attraction and dominance bubbled to the surface like a kettle slowly building to a boil.

My slave had stripped down to his jock but stopped there. I stepped forward and stretched my hand out and grasped the elastic and tugged his jock down revealing his cock. His cock was thick but not especially large. I grabbed the shaft section of my CB 6000 and tried to slip his cock into it. Despite having the largest size that was offered his cock was difficult to fit in. As I tried he winced in pain and struggled to fit him in.

The slave whined about the discomfort. I snatched up a bit of water based lube and sparingly applied it to his cock and that did it. The cock popped into the cage and I was finally able to secure everything in place. I looped the lock into the slot but didn't lock it. Instead, I stood and put the key on a chain necklace. I held it before me and started him unflinchingly in the eye. "Kiss it." I instructed. His nose wrinkled as if I asked him to kiss a dead fish and he did so. I flashed a toothy grin. "You just kissed your freedom goodbye." I growled. "You sick fuck!" he gasped as I locked his cage and put the key around my neck. It hung lightly halfway between my chin and nipples.

I reached over to my wrist restraints and put them on his wrists as tightly as I could. I secured a metal clip binding the thick leather straps together. Once secured I roughly grabbed the link and yanked him towards the bed. Rather than go in the direction he was forced he simply stumbled forward slightly. Annoyed at his passivity I reached out a foot and pushed him much harder onto the bed. I heard a familiar pitch in his voice. He was about to start whining again. I reached over to my desk and snatched the riding crop.

With one swift motion I brought it down quickly about 2 inches from his face. He flinched and was silenced.

To be continued...

Things Online Subs Do That Drive Me Crazy

I'm working on some of my more recent adventures for publication but I wanted to be able to post something quickly so that folks would see I am trying to get out more posts.

The easiest and preferred way for me to meet submissives is via apps and Recon. I have other sites i visit too. I deal with boys almost daily who do things that have listed below and i thought it might be easier to just put this out there and maybe it will help someone and vent my frustrations.

I was talking to a switch friend of mine. He recently started exploring his switch side and was dealing with submissives for the first time. He and I were bitching about submissives and I thought that it might be an interesting post. This is just my opinion. If you'd like to comment on it please feel free to do so respectfully as I intend no insult to the MANY MANY submissives that do not do these things.

The two of us are mostly dealing with subs new to the scene and guys on the net. So... without further ado... Things subs do to drive me crazy.

1) The question: "How kinky are you?"

The gripe: This question is really difficult to answer. There's no quantitative way to answer the question. Who cares? Aren't you just being picky author? Yea a bit, but here's why it matters. If I say "VERY KINKY" I have no idea what that means to you. Maybe it means lashing you on the back with a single tail till you bleed. Maybe it means diaper play. Maybe it means clothespins. Whatever it means, it can and has instantly stopped a conversation when I've answered "very kinky", or even just "kinky".

The solution: Just ask a dom what he's into. It may not be a short list. But personally? I just hyper link everyone to my Recon profile and let them decide whether they're interested or not. By asking what the Sir you're interested in is into, you're learning specifics that help you make an informed decision. Furthermore, and I would think this part is most important; asking about his answers can give you a sense of how experienced a person is.

2) The issue: Guys see my recon profile and complain about one or two items in it and then ultimately don't play.

The gripe: I am a diverse kinkster. I have a variety of interests. There's probably someone out there who shares all my kinks but he and I are probably one in a few thousand. That means just because it's on my profile DOES NOT mean I expect you to do it. Even among dom and sub sex is a negotiation process for gay men. If you don't want to do something just put it as a limit and we're good to go.

The solution: This issue is probably a bit unique to me and it's just as likely that any given sub was just going to flake anyways. Submissives, if you don't already know, the secret to a dom's power is that we have no power over you that you don't grant us. That means, if you don't want to do something. Say so up front. Play with a safe word and don't play with someone you don't trust.

3) The issue: Flaking.

The gripe: This one I definitely have to acknowledge is not just submissives. I know dominants flake too. So do twinks, bears, otters, etc. This is a much more universal problem. I'm not sure why this is such a problem. It seems like it might be because it's more socially acceptable to stand someone up than it is to tell them "I don't think I can do this" or "you know I don't think we're a match after all". I'm not sure what flakers are afraid of what honesty would do. Do they think we'll yell at them? Cause frankly, I'd like to thank them for not wasting my time, or having to tell others that I'm not interested because I have someone coming over who never shows up. I have no idea why men do this but of the possible reasons: Arrogance, nervousness, no intention of showing up in the first place, because he can, to mess with weird or ugly guys, or even a legitimate reason he couldn't come. Each possibility is less appealing than the next. It's a wonder people manage to ever get together.

The solution: Yeah, I know. If there was a magical solution it wouldn't be an issue. I've made it a personal policy to at least tell people I’m not interested. That's the best I can come up with on this one. All I can do is vent. That said. The advantage of honesty? You could make a new kinkster friend. At the bare minimum he should speak well of you for being honest with him if someone should ask about you. Gay men love to talk. Your reputation will precede you and can hurt you when you find someone you actually want to spend time with.

4) The issue: chatting prior to meeting up and asking "exactly what would you do to me?"

The gripe: This one I get pretty well. You're putting yourself at a risk by meeting up with someone you don't know and potentially getting tied up. Here's the problem though. A LARGE number of subs ask this question. To answer it is a big investment of time on my tiny phone (less so on my keyboard). And it most often involves a request for more information. I believe that often times men are doing this so they can beat off to whatever I write. It's a problem for me because submissives are potentially here to serve my needs and my needs are NOT being served by typing a long monologue to you about the boots I own you want to lick, only to find you never show up. I'm tired of talking about sex. I want to have it.

The solution: You want to suss out whether a Sir is worth your time? Compatible? Here's a few different suggestions: Check his profile on recon or fetlife. See if he has a lot of friends. Someone well connected to the community or at least someone with 3-4 friends is more likely to be a good guy since he'll have people who invested in time with him after sex. How many one night stands have you never spoken to again? My point exactly. Next suggestion? Ask him about his best session. Even I love to recount that particular story (stay tuned, its coming). When you get your answer make a decision and be honest and direct with your answer whatever it is. My final suggestion? See if you know anyone in the kink scene in common. Do your own checking up on a would-be partner.

I may write a few more of these if I think of more but for now that should be pretty good. Am I off base? Let me know, constructively :)